The Kinsey Confidential Podcast is your opportunity to ask sex and sexual health related questions and have them answered by experts from the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Host Dr. Debby Herbenick (M.P.H., Ph.D.) is Associate Director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University where she is also a sexual health researcher and educator at The Kinsey Institute. She writes regular columns for Men's Health Magazine, Time Out Chicago, and Velocity, and has provided expert opinion for the San Francisco Chronicle, New York Times, LA Times, Marie Clare, Men's Fitness, Women's Health, Glamour, SELF, The Guardian, Discovery Health, Sirius Satelite Radio, The Today Show and The Tyra Banks Show. Visit Kinsey Confidential online at KinseyConfidential.org where you can listen to more podcasts, read our sexual health blog, and submit your own questions to be answered by the experts at The Kinsey institute on future episodes of the podcast. The Kinsey Confidential Podcast is updated every Monday and Thursday. http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/podcast/ en-us 2008, The Trustees of Indiana University http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Mon, 29 Dec 2008 08:00:00 EST Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:00:00 EST http://wfiu.org/podcasts/images/kinsey_podcast_sm.jpg http://www.kinseyconfidential.org/podcast/ A production of WFIU Public Media from Indiana University The Kinsey Institute WFIU Public Media wfiu@indiana.edu sex, gender, sex advice podcast, sex advice, kinsey institute, alfred kinsey, sex research, sex podcast, wfiu, npr no I had unprotected sex about a month ago. Then this week, I noticed what looked like a pimple on the shaft of my penis. It popped on its own and had pimple ooze come out of it, like a regular pimple, and now it is almost gone. This made me scared that maybe it was herpes instead of a pimple. Could this be possible? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1102-kinsey-penis-pimple.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1102-kinsey-penis-pimple.mp3 Thu, 01 Jan 2009 03:00:00 EST 3:00 Soon I am going to have sex for the first time and I have heard that it hurts for women, which scares me. What can you suggest for it to not hurt me? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1101-kinsey-first-time-pain.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1101-kinsey-first-time-pain.mp3 Mon, 29 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 I'm 25 and still have the occasional wet dream.  They are usually quite vivid and wake me out of my sleep. My fiancee hasn't moved in yet, but we usually have sex at least once a week.  So I wouldn't say that I'm sexually frustrated; at least not any more than the average 20 something male.  Will these wet dreams ever stop?  When? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1010-kinsey-wet-dream.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1010-kinsey-wet-dream.mp3 Thu, 25 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 nocturnal emission, wet dream I am a 19 year old male. I am mostly attracted to females physically and a little bit emotionally. However, I have a strong attraction to males sexually – but not emotionally. I am so confused, I don’t know whether I’m straight, Bi, or gay. Please help me. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1009-kinsey-bisexual-or-gay.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1009-kinsey-bisexual-or-gay.mp3 Mon, 22 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 gay, straight, attraction, men, women, emotion Can a woman get pregnant from having sex with another woman? I was sexual with one of my girlfriends and I am worried that could happen to me. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1008-kinsey-sex-woman-pregnancy.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1008-kinsey-sex-woman-pregnancy.mp3 Thu, 18 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnancy, woman, sex I’m 18 and recently had sex for the first time. My girlfriend and I have now done it five times in the past month and I haven’t ejaculated any of the times. Is this something to be worried about? I’m still new, and thought maybe it just takes time. I still enjoy it, so it’s okay, but I’m just curious about what you think. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1007-kinsey-ejaculation-intercourse.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1007-kinsey-ejaculation-intercourse.mp3 Mon, 15 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 stimulation, intercourse, ejaculation, first time My girlfriend says that she can’t feel anything when I’m in her. I never had this problem with women before, and am pretty sure it’s not a size issue as I’m at least average size. She says this is a serious sexual problem and we need a solution. What are the reasons why a woman wouldn’t feel anything during sex? We get along otherwise and I’d like to fix this if we can. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1006-kinsey-stimulating-sex.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1006-kinsey-stimulating-sex.mp3 Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 stimulation, intercourse, penis, vagina Awhile back I found porn videos on my boyfriend’s computer. Ever since, I have felt worthless, sad and like I can’t trust him. He promised he wouldn’t watch anymore but twice I have looked and found them again. My boyfriend says he doesn’t want to upset me, but that it’s just a guy thing – is it? Or am I not enough for him? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1005-kinsey-porn-videos.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1005-kinsey-porn-videos.mp3 Mon, 8 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pornography, attraction For years I was with a man who had a very large penis. We broke up and now I have met a man who does not have as big of a penis. Although we haven’t had sex yet I feel like that when we do my vaginal size will be much looser to him. Is that true? Will my vagina be stretched out from my ex? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1004-kinsey-large-penis.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1004-kinsey-large-penis.mp3 Thu, 4 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 penis, size, vagina, loose I recently learned that I have genital warts on my penis. How should I get treated for these? Can I pass them on to women I have sex with? And is it true that people who have HPV warts, like me, can get cancer from the HPV? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1003-kinsey-genital-warts.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1003-kinsey-genital-warts.mp3 Mon, 1 Dec 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 genital warts, hpv, cancer I have been on the birth control pill for the past year. Is it safe to have unprotected sex without getting pregnant? Or could I still get pregnant? My boyfriend and I are both STI-free and we’d like to try sex without a condom. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1002-kinsey-sex-without-condom.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1002-kinsey-sex-without-condom.mp3 Thu, 27 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 condom, sti, pregnancy, birth control I have only had sexual experiences with men, although I mostly fantasize about sex with women. I have strong feelings for men, and enjoy physical intimacy with men, but why do most of my fantasies about sex involve women? Am I bisexual or lesbian? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1001-kinsey-bisexual-or-lesbian.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/1001-kinsey-bisexual-or-lesbian.mp3 Mon, 24 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 bisexual, orientation, straight, lesbian, attraction Question: I had sex last night for the second time, and this morning, there was blood on my sheets. I was confused because the first time I had sex I bled, and I thought that meant my hymen had broken and that I wouldn’t bleed anymore. Also, we were both drunk so we didn’t use a condom, but he said I won’t get pregnant since I bled. Can you help me? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0906-kinsey-bleeding-pregnant.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0906-kinsey-bleeding-pregnant.mp3 Thu, 20 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnant, bleeding, sti, hymen, first time Question: My boyfriend and I were petting -- he ejaculated and then wiped himself off. After about 5 minutes, he inserted the head of his penis into my vagina. Can I get pregnant because of that? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0905-kinsey-ejaculate-pregnant.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0905-kinsey-ejaculate-pregnant.mp3 Mon, 17 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnant, ejaculation, petting, birth control Question: Recently, after having sex with my boyfriend, my vagina has been hurting and sometimes it burns. Should I be worried? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0904-kinsey-vagina-burning.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0904-kinsey-vagina-burning.mp3 Thu, 13 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, itching, burning, sti, allergy, irritation Question: My clitoris is constantly dry and sometimes I can see some white discharge on my underwear. It has this bread-like smell to it. My vagina is also not as moisturized as it used to be, and during intercourse it takes time for the juices to start flowing. What could be going on? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0903-kinsey-dry-clitoris.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0903-kinsey-dry-clitoris.mp3 Mon, 10 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 dry, clitoris, vagina, smell, discharge, lubrication Question: My sex partner and I have really good sexual chemistry together, but we're complete opposites when we're not having sex. Is intensely passionate sex a sign of a healthy relationship or just a strong libido? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0902-kinsey-passionate-sex.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0902-kinsey-passionate-sex.mp3 Thu, 6 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 passion, healthy, libido, relationship Question: During sex, my partner usually masturbates me. Lately, he’s been pulling my foreskin a little too far back. It feels good most of the time, but sometimes it’s uncomfortable, and I'm afraid it might tear my frenulum. Is this possible? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0901-kinsey-frenulum-tear.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0901-kinsey-frenulum-tear.mp3 Mon, 3 Nov 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 masturbation, foreskin, frenulum, tear, cut Question: Do women always bleed the first time that they have sex? My girlfriend said that she had never had sex with anyone before, but then we had sex and there was no blood on the sheets. Does that mean that she was lying to me about being a virgin? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0810-kinsey-first-time-bleeding.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0810-kinsey-first-time-bleeding.mp3 Thu, 30 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 bleeding, blood, virgin, hymen, virginity, first time Question: Going into my relationship with my boyfriend, I was a virgin and he was not. After waiting until we were both ready, we talked about it and decided that it was time. I had been told in the past by my gynecologist that I have a very small vagina. It has never been easy inserting tampons or even my boyfriend’s finger. Every time we’ve tried to have sex, he can’t get in me at all. What can we do besides try lube? Are some positions better than others? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0809-kinsey-small-vagina.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0809-kinsey-small-vagina.mp3 Mon, 27 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, size, small, tight, sex positions, intercourse, pain, lube, lubrication Question: I know that all men masturbate but I’m bothered by the fact that my boyfriend does it. I just moved in with him and we have different work hours and our sex life is great when we have I, but sometimes we can’t because of our schedules. Is it normal for him to still be masturbating even though we’re living together and having sex? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0808-kinsey-masturbation-jealousy.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0808-kinsey-masturbation-jealousy.mp3 Thu, 23 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 masturbation, jealousy, boyfriend, relationship, male Question: My girlfriend and I are engaging in dry sex in which she has panties on with boxer shorts whereas I have worn boxers as well but also have been naked. I am getting a lot of mixed signals about the pregnancy risk from dry humping when I look for answers on the internet. I have not ejaculated, but am aware that some pre-seminal fluid exists in my shorts. What are some birth control methods we could use for better peace of mind? Would a condom be a good choice or will it just rip off during the rubbing? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0807-kinsey-dry-sex-contraception.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0807-kinsey-dry-sex-contraception.mp3 Mon, 20 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 birth control, contraception, dry sex, dry humping, pregnancy Question: My wife and I used to have oral sex once in a while and both enjoyed it. Now she says when I give her oral pleasure she says she gets a yeast infection. For this reason she won't let me do it anymore. I don't think she gets an infection if she performs fellatio on me prior to intercourse. Is a yeast infection possible from oral sex? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0806-kinsey-oral-sex-yeast-infection.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0806-kinsey-oral-sex-yeast-infection.mp3 Thu, 16 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 oral sex, yeast infection, fellatio Question: My boyfriend and I were having sex last night and we noticed there was blood everywhere all of a sudden. I jumped in the shower, blood streaming everywhere. I found a cut on the outside of my vagina, in the folds between my vulva and outer labia. The bleeding has stopped now, but the cut is pretty long and deep. If it were on any other part of my body I would consider stitches. What should I do? Can I let it heal on its own? I don't think I can afford a doctor's visit. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0805-kinsey-vagina-cut.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0805-kinsey-vagina-cut.mp3 Mon, 13 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, vulva, labia, cut, stitches, bleeding, blood Question: Hello, I have a major problem that frustrates me to the fullest. And that is never achieving an orgasm while masturbating. I remember masturbating for two and half hours and not achieving an orgasm once. Is there something wrong with me compared to other women? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0804-kinsey-masturbation-orgasm.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0804-kinsey-masturbation-orgasm.mp3 Thu, 09 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 masturbation, orgasm, woman, women, female Question: Sometimes when I take baths I have an issue with water getting into my vagina. I usually do not realize when this happens. It will go unnoticed for a while, even a couple of hours sometimes. When the water works its way out it is usually enough to soak through my panties. No one has been able to tell me why this happens and it is really embarrassing. Please help. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0803-kinsey-vagina-water.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0801-kinsey-kinsey-vagina-water.mp3 Mon, 06 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, water, bath, bathing Question: My boyfriend and I are in our twenties and have been dating for a few years. On two occasions recently I noticed that he got an erection when he saw an attractive woman. I got mad and upset. Is it normal for me to feel this way? And can’t he control his erections? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0802-kinsey-erection-control.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0802-kinsey-erection-control.mp3 Thu, 02 Oct 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 erection, control, attraction, arousal, penis Question: I have this fantasy to be part of a coed masturbation group - is this healthy? Sometimes I feel like this is a weird fantasy but then I think that masturbation is a safe healthy form of sexual expression, so maybe other adults would be interested in forming a group or whatever. Does such a thing exist or have you heard of anything like this ever? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0801-kinsey-masturbation-group.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0801-kinsey-masturbation-group.mp3 Mon, 29 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 masturbation, group, fantasy, coed Question: I bought a vibrator shaped like a penis to start experimenting with sex toys. I'd never done anything that involved penetrating my vagina before, and the first time I used the toy, I barely put it in and my vagina started bleeding. I'm worried that I might have an infection of some sort that I never knew about. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0706-kinsey-vibrator-penetration.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0706-kinsey-vibrator-penetration.mp3 Thu, 25 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vibrator, penetration, bleeding, infection, sex toys Question: My girlfriend and I had sex with a condom, and I didn't ejaculate. Now she's scared she's pregnant. Could she be? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0705-kinsey-pregnancy.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0705-kinsey-pregnancy.mp3 Mon, 22 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 contraception, ejaculation, pregnancy Question: My boyfriend and I are ready to have sex together, and I have a lot of questions about it, since I'm a virgin. My boyfriend wants me to feel as comfortable and informed as possible. Where can we learn about birth control options and sexuality issues? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0704-kinsey-new-to-sex.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0704-kinsey-new-to-sex.mp3 Thu, 18 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 sexuality information, birth control, information, resources Question: When I was 16-years-old, I took pills that were supposed to make my penis get bigger. Now I'm 20 and my penis hasn't grown since I was about 17. Do you think that taking the pills caused me damage in some way? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0703-kinsey-penis-pills.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0703-kinsey-penis-pills.mp3 Mon, 15 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 penis, pills, drugs, growth, health problems, side effects Question: When my boyfriend and I are having sex in the missionary position I feel like I just lay there. I don't know what to do. What am I supposed to be doing? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0702-kinsey-missionary-position.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0702-kinsey-missionary-position.mp3 Thu, 11 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 missionary position, sex positions, sex position Question: Are there any techniques I can use to last longer than 15 minutes in bed? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0701-kinsey-lasting-longer.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0701-kinsey-lasting-longer.mp3 Mon, 08 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 longer, length, sex, time, techniques Question: My girlfriend and I have been in a lesbian relationship for nine months. There was a lot of sex in the beginning of our relationship, but as it progressed the sex has dwindled to being once every two or three weeks. Do you have any advice? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0607-kinsey-lesbian-bed-death.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0607-kinsey-lesbian-bed-death.mp3 Thu, 04 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 lesbian, sex, relationship, advice, infrequent, declining, frequency Question: Can a man have an erection without fancying the girl? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0603-kinsey-genital-warts.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0605-kinsey-erection-without-fancying.mp3 Mon, 01 Sep 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 attraction, erection, male, penis, genitals, arousal Question: I am being treated for genital warts by my doctor. I have also read a lot about genital warts on the internet. Plenty of sites say "try to avoid getting HPV", but what do you do when you have it? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0603-kinsey-genital-warts.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0603-kinsey-genital-warts.mp3 Thu, 28 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 genital warts, hpv, human papilloma virus, std, sti, infection, sex Question: How can I stop from getting so dry on my vagina, like in between the lips? I get very dry to the point that it can hurt. What can I do? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0505-kinsey-dry-vaginal-lips.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0505-kinsey-dry-vaginal-lips.mp3 Mon, 25 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, labia, lips, women, genitals, dryness, lubrication Question: Does frequent male masturbation lead to premature ejaculation during sex? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080605-kinsey-frequent-male-masturbation.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080605-kinsey-frequent-male-masturbation.mp3 Thu, 21 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 2:31 masturbation, male, men, ejaculation, sex, sexual, intercourse, climax, technique, learning, education Question: I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months. I am his first girlfriend and he's never had sex before. He hasn't been able to reach an orgasm from a hand job, so I find oral sex the only way of pleasing him. However, it still takes him a while – sometimes nearly 45 minutes. I'm getting a little frustrated. Is there anything that I can do to try to help him? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0606-kinsey-long-blowjobs.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0606-kinsey-long-blowjobs.mp3 Mon, 18 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 blowjob, oral sex, pleasure, virgin, first-time, male Question: I've been in a relationship for more than three years with another guy. It's my first relationship and lately I think about cheating on him. I don't want to lose him, but otherwise how will I know what it's like to be with other guys? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080623-kinsey-other-men.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080623-kinsey-other-men.mp3 Thu, 14 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 men, gay, homosexual, cheating, relationships Question: I’m the parent of a young child and I’m trying to figure out how to raise my child to feel good about her sexuality but don’t know where to start. Any advice? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0503-kinsey-sex-education.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0503-kinsey-sex-education.mp3 Mon, 11 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 children, sex education, young, youth, parenting Question: What is the ridge of skin that forms on the underside of the shaft of the penis? I have what looks like a skin tab or seam that goes from the glans down to my anus. Is it just me or do other guys have this too? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080612-kinsey-perineal-raphe.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080612-kinsey-perineal-raphe.mp3 Thu, 07 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:14 perineal, perineum, raphe, seam, ridge, penis, men, sex, sexual, health Question: I’m not using any contraceptives, and recently my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex. The following day I took emergency contraceptives. I bought a home pregnancy test and it came out positive, but I don't believe that I'm pregnant. What should I do? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0602-kinsey-pregnant-no-doctor.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0602-kinsey-pregnant-no-doctor.mp3 Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnant, pregnancy, test, doctor, denial Question: I've developed a low level eating disorder and I think it's because I was rejected by someone. I'm now afraid to eat anything that tastes good. Is this common? and what can I do about it? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080519-kinsey-sexual-rejection-and-eating-disorders.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080519-kinsey-sexual-rejection-and-eating-disorders.mp3 Thu, 31 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:13 sexual, rejection, eating, disorders, food, bulimia, bulimic Question: I'm unsure of what to do when having sex with a virgin. What should I do when she starts to bleed? Should we stop having sex? or clean it up and keep going? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080515-kinsey-first-time-bleeding.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080515-kinsey-first-time-bleeding.mp3 Mon, 28 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:41 virgin, virginity, hymen, bleeding Question: Whenever I try to stimulate my girlfriend's clitoris whether orally or with my hand she says it tickles or hurts. Any suggestions to help her become comfortable with clitoral stimulation? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0608-kinsey-clitoris-pain.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0608-kinsey-clitoris-pain.mp3 Thu, 24 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 clitoris, clitoral, stimulation, hand-job, pain, tickling Question: The other day, I was on day 3 of my period, and I had my boyfriend over. We have never had sex, but occasionally, he will stick his hands down my pants. He insists he had nothing on his hands (like sperm) but then on day 5 of my period, my period ended. Could I be pregnant? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0604-kinsey-nervous-wreck.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0604-kinsey-nervous-wreck.mp3 Mon, 21 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnancy, period, short, premature, virgin Question: I've been married for 3 years and still can't have sex due to very painful penetration. However my husband and I would like to have a child very, very soon. We are trying to get pregnant naturally by having my husband ejaculate in my vaginal opening so that the sperm can swim through my uterus. Is it possible to get pregnant this way? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0601-kinsey-sexless-marriage.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0601-kinsey-sexless-marriage.mp3 Thu, 17 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnancy, ejaculation, vagina, vaginal Question: I’m attracted to both men and women, but slightly more to men. I masturbate to both, but more recently mostly to men. I’ve only had sex with one woman. Does it sound to you like I’m gay? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0507-kinsey-am-i-gay.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0507-kinsey-am-i-gay.mp3 Mon, 14 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:00 sexual orientation, gay, homosexuality, gender, identity, male Question: My girlfriend and I have been sexually active for months and she has always felt the same, tightness wise, to me. I hadn’t seen her for two weeks and when I returned it seems her vagina has gotten wider. Is there any way for this to have happened without her cheating on me? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080710-kinsey-vagina-size.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080710-kinsey-vagina-size.mp3 Thu, 10 Jul 2008 03:00:00 EST 3:05 female, women, woman, girl, vagina, size, cheating, relationship, issues, sex, sexual, health, education Question: Can sexual intercourse help to alleviate menstrual cramps? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080707-kinsey-menstrual-cramps.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080707-kinsey-menstrual-cramps.mp3 Mon, 07 Jul 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 sex, menstruation, menstrual, cramps, period Question: My girlfriend achieves orgasm very quickly – within thirty seconds. Is it possible to delay her orgasm with pills or other techniques? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080703-kinsey-delaying-female-orgasm.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080703-kinsey-delaying-female-orgasm.mp3 Thu, 03 Jul 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:15 female, orgasm, women, woman, girl, sex, sexual, health, education Question: When I have sex and my boyfriend ejaculates inside me, I get a bad burning feeling in my vagina. Assuming we're STI-free, could I be allergic to his semen? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080630-kinsey-semen-allergy.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080630-kinsey-semen-allergy.mp3 Mon, 30 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:16 semen, allergy, irritation, vagina Question: My boyfriend has epididymitis and I want to know if it’s contagious. I looked it up on the internet and I have no symptoms at all. Could I still have it? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080626-kinsey-epididymitis.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080626-kinsey-epididymitis.mp3 Thu, 26 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:51 epididymitis, infection, sti, std, penis, men, sex, sexual, health, education Question: I’m a virgin, but my boyfriend isn’t. When we tried sleeping together for the first time, we couldn’t make it work and I felt unattractive and very uncomfortable. Now I’m dreading the thought of my boyfriend even touching me. Am I over-reacting? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0504-kinsey-virgin-uncomfortable.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0504-kinsey-virgin-uncomfortable.mp3 Mon, 23 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 virgin, uncomfortable, virginity, pain, relationship Question: My girlfriend's vagina gets very dry during intervourse. I use a lot of lubricant but even then it gets dry again after 10 minutes, sometimes so dry that it damages the condom. Any ideas? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080619-kinsey-dry-vagina.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080619-kinsey-dry-vagina.mp3 Thu, 19 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 vagina, dry, dryness, sex, intercourse, lubrication, condom Question: Does having sex while you're on your period make you bleed more? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080616-kinsey-sex-during-period.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080616-kinsey-sex-during-period.mp3 Mon, 16 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:46 sex, period, menstruation, bleeding, blood Question: I made a huge ethical mistake and didn't tell my partner that I have genital herpes. Now he has herpes. What should I do? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0502-kinsey-gave-partner-herpes.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0502-kinsey-gave-partner-herpes.mp3 Thu, 12 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 herpes, sti, std, transmission, relationship Question: Sometimes my boyfriend watches porn and I feel intimidated by this. I’ve talked to him about it before and he says I have nothing to worry about. Why do I still feel intimidated? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080609-kinsey-porn-insecurities.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080609-kinsey-porn-insecurities.mp3 Mon, 09 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 porn, insecurity, pornography, sex, sexual, explicit, images, video, female, woman, girl Question: I’m a 48 year old male and recently I’ve noticed that when I ejaculate there’s hardly any semen, and also there’s no force behind the ejaculations. I was wondering what I can do, or should I see a doctor? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0506-kinsey-dribble-factor.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0506-kinsey-dribble-factor.mp3 Thu, 05 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 semen, ejaculation, aging, men, men's health, sexuality Question: What are the chances of pregnancy during menstruation? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080602-kinsey-pregnancy-during-menstruation.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080602-kinsey-pregnancy-during-menstruation.mp3 Mon, 02 Jun 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:15 pregnancy, period, menstruation, cycle Question: I’ve started noticing that my penis becomes crooked when erect, a bend in the middle maybe 20 degrees to the left. It doesn’t hurt, but there’s a slight tension. Should I see a doctor or take special herbs? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080529-kinsey-crooked-erection.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080529-kinsey-crooked-erection.mp3 Thu, 29 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:55 erection, men, penis, angle, sex, sexuality, sexual, health Question: How common are Sexually Transmissible Infections and which are most common? Are there symptoms I should look for? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080526-kinsey-common-sexually-transmissible-infections.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080526-kinsey-common-sexually-transmissible-infections.mp3 Mon, 26 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:15 sti, std, sexually transmitted diseases, hiv, aids, hpv, gardasil, chlamydia, herpes Question: Whenever I give my girlfriend and orgasm she always tells me to stop because her vagina becomes too sensitive to touch. Sometimes she even tells me it hurts. Is this normal or should we be concerned? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080522-kinsey-sensitive-vagina.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080522-kinsey-sensitive-vagina.mp3 Thu, 22 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 sensitive, sensitivity, pain, sensation, vagina, orgasm Question: My girlfriend had a previous partner that had a penis that was a lot larger than mine. My penis is six inches long. When we have sex how do I know if I’m pleasing her? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0508-kinsey-penis-large-enough.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0508-kinsey-penis-large-enough.mp3 Mon, 19 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 penis, size, large, small, men, men's health, sexuality Question: I'd like to buy a vibrator, but I have no idea how to go about getting one. I'm too embarrassed to go into a store, but I’m also hesitant about buying online. Can you give any advice about how and where to get vibrators? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0501-kinsey-buying-vibrators.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/0501-kinsey-buying-vibrators.mp3 Thu, 15 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 sex, toys, vibrator, purchasing, advice Question: I’m new to condoms. When I leave space at the tip, is one-half inch enough? I’m worried that if the condom fills up with semen it might back up inside my penis. Any thoughts on this? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080512-kinsey-space-at-tip-of-condom.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080512-kinsey-space-at-tip-of-condom.mp3 Mon, 12 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:51 condom, sex, protection, protected, use, sexuality, health Question: I'm being treated for depression but I'm worried that the antidepressant may ruin my sex life. Is it true that medications can keep you from having orgasms? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080508-kinsey-anti-depressants-and-orgasms.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080508-kinsey-anti-depressants-and-orgasms.mp3 Thu, 08 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:51 anti-depressants, antidepressants, medication, sex, arousal, sexual, orgasm Question: Lately, I’ve noticed a dramatic reduction in the amount of semen I have. I realize this is a natural phenomenon, but is there something more that might be going on? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080505-kinsey-amount-of-semen.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080505-kinsey-amount-of-semen.mp3 Mon, 05 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:51 semen, penis, men, sex, sexual, health Question: My wife is 51 and her periods are almost gone. How will we know when it's safe to have unprotected sex again? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080501-kinsey-menopause.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080501-kinsey-menopause.mp3 Thu, 01 May 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 menopause, protection, contraception, safe, pregnancy, sex, sexual, health, education Question: Sometimes I like to give rimjobs to my girlfriend and have anal sex with her. If we're both STI free, do I need to worry about contracting anything? Also, is there any chance of hurting her during anal sex even if we do it properly? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080428-kinsey-analingus.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080428-kinsey-analingus.mp3 Mon, 28 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 analingus, rimjob, anal, pain, safety, infection, sex, sexual, health, education Question: Recently my boyfriend and I had sex using a non-lubricated condom. It became painful so I had him stop, and the morning after I noticed there was some bleeding when I went to the bathroom. Is this something that will heal on its own or do I need to see my gynecologist? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080424-kinsey-non-lubricated-condoms.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080424-kinsey-non-lubricated-condoms.mp3 Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 condom, lubrication, bleeding, sex, sexual, health, education Question: I had sex with my girlfriend without a condom for only twenty seconds. Is it possible she will get pregnant? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080421-kinsey-sex-for-twenty-seconds.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080421-kinsey-sex-for-twenty-seconds.mp3 Mon, 21 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 pregnancy, sex, sexual, health, education Question: My boyfriend and I are both virgins. We've gone as far as oral sex, and after he ejaculates his erection remains, even long enough to go for two more rounds. Neither of us are concerned, but we're just wondering why this occurs. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080417-kinsey-erection-remains.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080414-kinsey-erection-remains.mp3 Thu, 17 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:00 erection, virgin, oral sex, sexual, health, education Question: I’ve been with my partner for over a year now and we’re very happy together. He’s five foot seven and 145 pounds and I’m five foot six and over 250. I’m concerned that I can’t fulfill his needs in the bedroom like a smaller person could. What can I do besides losing the weight, which I’m already doing? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080414-kinsey-body-size.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080414-kinsey-body-size.mp3 Sun, 13 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:15 size, weight, sex, overweight, body, body issues, sexual, health, education, pleasure Question: I'm currently having sex with a professor. I know this isn't a very good idea, but the professor is helping me with my grades. What should I do? How can I get it to stop without jeopardizing my grade? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080407-kinsey-sex-with-professor.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080407-kinsey-sex-with-professor.mp3 Sun, 06 Apr 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:46 sex, professor, grades, academic Question: Does female masturbation count as sexual activity? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080331-kinsey-female-masturbation.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080331-kinsey-female-masturbation.mp3 Sun, 30 Mar 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:31 masturbation, female, sex, sexual, intercouse, climax, technique, learning, education Question: Is it possible to get Chlamydia from a bikini wax? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080324-kinsey-chlamydia-from-bikini-wax.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080324-kinsey-chlamydia-from-bikini-wax.mp3 Sun, 23 Mar 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:16 chlamydia, std, sti, sexually, transmitted, disease, infection Question: Since the release of the Kinsey movie, friends ask me about the Kinsey scale and the test. Can you pass along the test? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080317-kinsey-the-kinsey-scale.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080317-kinsey-the-kinsey-scale.mp3 Sun, 16 Mar 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:27 kinsey, scale, test, sexual orientation, gender, lesbian, gay, bisexual Question: What does it mean to be gay? I'm attracted to women sexually - not men - but I can make deep meaningful connections with men, while I have trouble establishing friendships with women. How do I figure this out? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080310-kinsey-sexual-orientation.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080310-kinsey-sexual-orientation.mp3 Sun, 09 Mar 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:01 sexual, orientation, gay, lesbian, bisexual, gender, sexuality Question: I've read about different pills, pumps, herbs, exercises, and surgeries that claim to increase penis size. Do they really work? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080303-kinsey-penis-enlargement.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080303-kinsey-penis-enlargement.mp3 Sun, 02 Mar 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:06 penis, size, enlargement, men, male, surgery, medication, pump Question: I have very small breasts. I was wondering if there is any way other than surgery to increase my breast size that works. http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080225-kinsey-safe-breast-enlargement.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080225-kinsey-safe-breast-enlargement.mp3 Sun, 24 Feb 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:16 breast, enlargement, boob job, surgery, enhancement, safety, medical Question: My girlfriend and I have sex between two and three times a day. Can having sex this frequently be harmful to our relationship and emotional attachment to each other? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080218-kinsey-frequent-sex.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080218-kinsey-frequent-sex.mp3 Sun, 17 Feb 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:16 frequent, sex, emotional, intimacy, bonding, cuddling, attachment What is the connection between love and sex, and how do you study these hard to explain emotional and physical states that are such an important part of our human experience? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080214-kinsey-valentines-day-puzzle.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080214-kinsey-valentines-day-puzzle.mp3 Wed, 13 Feb 2008 01:00:00 EST 2:22 kinsey, research, valentines day, elaine hatfield, ellen berscheid Question: How common is it for women to look at porn? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080211-kinsey-porn-for-women.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080211-kinsey-porn-for-women.mp3 Mon, 11 Feb 2008 01:00:00 EST 2:50 porn, erotica, pornography, women, gender, arousal, female, research Question: I'm a heterosexual male in a monogamous relationship. Recently, at or near climax, my condom slipped off completely. I didn't know this until I reached to hold on to it as I withdrew. Why did this happen? I produce a lot of pre-cum; does this have anything to do with it? More importantly, how can I keep this from happening in the future? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080204-kinsey-condom-slippage.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080204-kinsey-condom-slippage.mp3 Mon, 04 Feb 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:11 condom, slippage, lubrication, pre-cum, intercourse, sex, contraception, contraceptive, pregnancy Question: My partner is obsessed with my breasts! Though I enjoy the attention, how can I get him to explore other parts of my body? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080128-kinsey-breast-obsession.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080128-kinsey-breast-obsession.mp3 Mon, 28 Jan 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:36 women, breasts, breast, obsession, fetish Question: I'm a 22-year-old female, and I've never had an orgasm during "standard" sex - only oral. I thought that maybe it was my first partner, but I wasn't able to achieve it with my second partner either. Is this normal for women? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080121-kinsey-female-orgasms-during-intercourse.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080121-kinsey-female-orgasms-during-intercourse.mp3 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:14 women, female, orgasm, orgasms, intercourse, oral sex Question: I'm always anxious to show my penis to a partner for the first time. Is it too small or too big? Too curved or too straight? Too thick or too thin? or just a weird color? What should I look like? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080114-kinsey-penis-size.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080114-kinsey-penis-size.mp3 Mon, 14 Jan 2008 08:00:00 EST 2:39 penis, size, shape, color, body issues, sex, erection, penile Question: I've been having sexual fantasies about acts I would never consider doing in real life. Is there something wrong with me? http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080107-kinsey-sexual-fantasies.mp3 http://wfiu.indiana.edu/podcasts/audio/kinsey/08/080107-kinsey-sexual-fantasies.mp3 Mon, 07 Jan 2008 08:00:00 EST 3:15 sexual fantasies, question, answer, sex advice, sex research, women, men